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 Society wants me to belong, so I observe.
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Life requires me to live, but I am dying. . .

world mental health day 

10/10/2016

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​CN: ableism, dehumanisation. ​

Today is world mental health day. 

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I wanted to write a nice  and positive blog post about mental health, how important it is, how everyone matters and how harmful is not to take it seriously. But this morning I read a very upsetting article and decided to once again write about autism. 


​So I read supposedly inspiring and positive article about a mum of an autistic child who is struggling to express themselves (not my words) and how his diagnosis changed the whole life of this brave woman. In this article they also talked about how challenging her child is, and how strong and brave she is to put up with that. How she is an inspiration to all of us and so on. The end of the article was even worse, they claimed that having an autistic family member is a huge burden, how drastically it changes one's life and how they, on this, world mental health day, should firstly look after themselves, because they will never get appreciation or love back from their autistic family members. But seeing any smallest progress can brighten their day. (like you know, autistic people don't exist for their own reasons, but just to brighten someone else's day....) They said how sad and hard it is for her  to see her child being happy playing on their own with dinosaurs and having meltdowns while around other children. How she feels that this child will never love her and all they want to do is to share the facts about dinosaurs instead of more socially acceptable topics. And more ableist bullshit. 
Firstly I felt quite shocked, as i thought that we, as society, already moved away from the idea that autistic people are emotionless individuals, never expressing any kind of appreciation towards others... I also felt super angry as, like always, majority of articles written on the subject talk how hard is for people around autistics and how thankful we should be that they put up with us. This is so really helpful (oh, the sarcasm), especially when you already feel like everyone secretly hates you. Yeah right, thank you so much once again for telling me that my own existence is a tragedy and that I am the cause of everyone's pain...

I was also thinking why I rarely see articles about how hard is for autistic people to live in the world that does not want to accommodate our needs, in the world where we are expected to fit into someone else's agenda and most of the time no one even tells us what this agenda is. Be yourself they say. But this "be yourself" also has certain expectations attached. : / 

What is even more sad, that very often so called progressive people comply to the same agenda and while claim to be on autistic people's side, still adopt the very same dehumanising tactics. 
Do they even think how these articles affect mental health and well being of autistic people? All this made me to think more and more about such remarks towards neurodivergent folks and the bigger impact they have on our lives.
Growing up in neurotypical ableist world from a very young age we are socialised and “trained” to believe that there is only one way of being, only one way of doing things right. 
It is not acceptable to stim in public.
It is not acceptable to cry in public (there are exceptions to this though, like a funeral or tragic news).
It is not acceptable for an adult to carry toys around (unless they are acceptable type of toys).
It is not acceptable to seek sensory comfort in public places.
It is not acceptable to freak out in the crowds.
It is not acceptable  to lay on the ground if there are other people around.
It is not acceptable to hit your head into the wall.
It is not acceptable to wait hours for the bus that is not crowded, so others would not touch you by accident.
It is not acceptable to separate your food.
It is not acceptable to touch every object on your way to the bus stop.
The list could go on and on, every day there is a new rule of what is acceptable and what is not. What you are allowed to do and what not. Every rule has dozen exceptions and additional information that depends on the particular situation, environment, people involved and many other factors. You are not only expected to memorise them all, to create scripts for every single possibility, but also to act "naturally" and do not draw any attention to yourself.
It is exhausting. It is very exhausting. 
And if even a smallest detail goes wrong, we are reminded that by default it is always our own fault. 
I am wondering why these people don't write about this. Why don't they write that we should deconstruct the underlying assumption that we have to please others. Why don't they write how damaging for one's mental health is to grow in the world that every day keeps telling us that there is something wrong with us and that we are burden on society....
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I'm not saying that parents mental health is not important. Obviously it is. I am saying that to care about one group's mental health you do not need to harm other group. 
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